PBMon, May 9, 2022 at 4:08 PM1 min
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critic, track record, pacing, PURPOSE, bit, kinder, expectations, reflect, achieve, existing, capable, end user, awareness, committed, limit, reflection, confidence
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Rohan (100%)
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Rohan Taylor (5.2)
0:00
I look at the end user reflection pacing. And I look back and say, you know, to give myself confidence, what, um, what's my track record in this space? So getting getting an awareness of that, but also, when I am have been successful, or I have been able to achieve, what were the what were the circumstances, what were the key pieces that were existing to ensure that I have those with me now. And so I don't try to do too much beyond what I'm capable of. So I kind of limit my expectations. But I have a PURPOSE. So you replace it with a PURPOSE. And that PURPOSE is to deliver on whatever I've committed myself too. And, and I guess the self the, the critic inside our head, you know, I try to be a little bit kinder to myself. When, when that critic wants to, wants to tell me I could have done a little bit better. I accept that and say, Yeah, okay, fair enough, but move on. So, reflect, look at my past track record, and understand what was in place and how that really helped me
Barry Dancer 1:12
not so good coaches along the way. But when you reflect back, what do you think the great coaches do differently that sets them apart?
Probably more some things about what they have in common. Obviously, they have athletes that are winners, have had a role in assisting those athletes become winners, primarily, I think because they develop very strong relationships with their athletes. They've been students of this sport over a long period of time. So they've got quite a strong and clear vision of what it takes to win, and the conviction to keep on that path and keep true to that path. They all have a strong sense of PURPOSE and duty. And that results in such a strong work ethic. They're prepared to embrace challenges and some of the pressures that go with performing in a public arena.
Certainly, I think a lot of them are prepared to make and have to be prepared to make difficult decisions, have the candid conversations that sometimes are very unpopular with individuals or groups. But always would be doing that in the best interests of the program or their athletes. And they're continuing searching for new ideas and new knowledge as a means of innovation and keeping ahead of the competition. So for me, that's sort of, that's some of if I look at the things that when I look at the great coaches I've had experience of working with that serving reading about their thoughts come to mind.
PBMon, Feb 20, 2023 at 3:05 PM
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communicate, connect, PURPOSE, realize, relate
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Mercedas (100%)
MT
Mercedas Taaffe-Cooper (20.1)
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It's for young people everywhere to connect relate and communicate and communicate their own potential like realize their PURPOSE on this earth and fulfill their PURPOSE you know and actually just go for it
5_4 (2)
PBMon, Jan 31, 2022 at 2:09 AM1 min
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overpowers, life, watered, internal, seed, live, leads, darkness, PURPOSE, risk, resilience, passion, follow, light, strength, fears, control, convictions
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Jenny (100%)
JB
Jenny Boucek
0:00
If you can find your inner place where that voice leads you, you can't go wrong. If you follow the peace, if you follow the passion, if you follow the PURPOSE, then I think they're what might appear to be risk is actually the least risky life you can live, because you're following the things that nobody can take from you. And so there's a strength, there's a resilience, there's an energy, and nobody else is in control of that. I don't want to give any human being control of my soul. And so the only way you can do that is by living your life for the internal the internal rewards, the internal convictions, the internal principles, the internal PURPOSE and passions and things that are just I think, I believe we're born with in seed form. And if you live your life in such a way and you're around certain people, those seeds get watered, and now take on a life of itself and you and so that way overpowers any like risks or fears. I think the positive things in life when watered always overpower the negative light always overpowers darkness. Darkness doesn't even exist. Without light. Darkness is just the absence of light
Shaun Caven 9:33
I think my PURPOSEs I think it's evolved over time. I think no, it's it's trying to help people achieve their goals. And to do something more so the population would probably see is extraordinary. But when you're in that environment, it sort of becomes run of the mill. And it's not until you actually stop and you go You know, which is dead, like winning a World Cup medal or a Paralympic medal Olympic medal. It's such a rare rare thing if you if you actually did the statistics on it that, you know, is achieved in something that very, very few people will ever do. Or even get the opportunity to do so. represent your country representing, you know, a sport on a global stage. Whether you win or lose, it's almost like a massive achievement, and the medal is just a nation on the cake, really. So we're part of Olympic, I think there's another layer of there's another layer above, Olympic, which is, each person, olympic or paralympic has got a massively important story behind them. And, and I think the more you can learn about the athletes, and the more we can sell their stories, the more people will be in awe of those athletes, and what and what they can do. Because it'd be fantastic if we could get the average person to compete against some of the athletes, because they'd get blown away. And then people would realize just how amazing some of these people
Danny Kerry 4:02
Yes, I think in the role I work in so I work in a team sport. And currently we have 26, sort of full time athletes. So it's sort of how do you do that collectively across 26 athletes, but also on a one to one basis as well, a lot of what I'm going to talk about, I need to give you credit to Katie Warner, who's the psychologist that leads this process in our in our program and also Tim pit who's also the other psychologist that also works with this process. We call it the wide discovery process. Many people are familiar with the Simon Sinek sort of start with why famous TED Talk, philosophical approach. And essentially, there's a real guided process led by the psychologist and I'm privy I'm very fortunate to be involved in this, both doing it myself and also listening to the other athletes stories in this process, but a real guided process around the athletes exploring their life histories. reflecting on what have been the really most satisfying and enjoyable aspects of their lives, what are the things they look fondly back on equally the things that they found challenging in their lives. And in doing that, trying to understand what they bring from the past to the present, and why they act and behave the way they do. And we start to serve and on earth, in a self insight in our athletes, and connect them perhaps with the things that they love about what they do, to allow them to have a greater sense of perspective about what they do and why they do it.
And at its core, that understanding, why do you do what you do? And what would you want to have as sitting behind the PURPOSE for what you want to do, that process goes on in really, over a number of sort of extended, interviews, conversations, conversations, a better word. And that gets sort of boiled down and simulated. And once the athlete feels very happy and contented, really got to a place where they feel they understand their why they are then sort of guided to present that to all of us so that all of the other athletes and all of their staff, so it becomes a sort of a greater level of mutual understanding between the athletes and the staff. And that creates a greater level of mutual support between because we tend to know where people come from, what they enjoy about their life, that what they're seeking from what they do, and what they want from others in that process and what they need from others in that process.
And that's how we go about it in the current Great Britain men's hockey program. I think it's only fair that I reference Katie Warner and Tim Pitt and who really lead and do an excellent job in that process. And the athletes who've engaged with what on the surface can be quite a frightening process to engage with. But by the end of it, I think they feel something they've really enjoyed, and also allows them to possibly lead their life in a more PURPOSEful way.
PBSun, Oct 8, 2023 at 4:24 PM
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shocked, culture, melbourne, standards, values, years, most surprising thing, PURPOSE, coaching, common, doubt, put, sport, finished, companies
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Paul (100%)
PR
Paul Roos (7.1)
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The most surprising thing is how little time they spend on their culture. That's probably the difference in sport and in business. I think that's the thing that shocked me. Having finished coaching Melbourne sort of four years ago, and being involved with performance by design for the last four years, that's probably the biggest thing that shocked me how little companies put into their culture. And often they think by putting a sign up getting everyone in a building together. And everyone coming in from nine to five or whatever, that we're going to build great relationships. We're going to have a common set of standards and PURPOSE and values and everything's going to be fine. That there's no doubt that's that's the thing that surprised me the most
01_01.4_Friend
PB
Mon, Oct 17, 2022 at 5:34 AM
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inquisitive, coach, style, reckon, growing, sense, stretch, foremost
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Andy (100%)
I think the great coaches have a real sense of their own PURPOSE and what they think is the right way to do something. But at the same time, I also think they're inquisitive, and you never stop growing as a coach, I reckon you've got to continue to stretch yourself and, and to challenge the way you think and the way you do things. But I think first and foremost, you've got to have your style. And if I think back to those men individually, they all had their own style, which was quite different to each other, but it was their style. And that to me is one of the key things you need to be a great coach.
Rhonda 23:05
Well, the reason that we needed fresh eyes to evaluate the team processes, you know, I think if you're anywhere for any amount of time, you have ebb and flow. And we were we had kind of reached a down cycle. And in order to come up out of that down cycle with the same coaching staff, and many of the same players, we had to reset and we needed fresh eyes. And so entered Dr. Maria Bullock, who is a fabulous sports psychologist that works here at the University of Nebraska, what we did is we did a poll, she did a poll of the student athletes. First of all, we had to know that we were motivated to head back up and be in an upward cycle, that we were motivated from all the players through the coaches to the staff. And so we had that set, we knew that that we had a high motivation level there. So that was great. So then she sent out basically a survey and asked the players for feedback of things that they thought needed to be discussed, could be obstacles or barriers in us achieving goals and the things that they wanted to work on with her. And the two big things that came back, Paul, were that we needed to set some concrete goals that we were checking in early enough and on and they needed her help to frame those in a way that were challenging and yet realistic.
And then the second thing is they really felt like if we were going to maximize our culture, understanding that not everybody plays but we wanted to have the hard conversations about not only accepting your role, but embracing your role and maybe how your role could change and alter as a season goes on.
And then the other thing was even expanding the role into your PURPOSE. So kind of going into that, like what's your PURPOSE on this team? and that could extend beyond the borders of just you as the athlete, but you as the full integration into the team, as a person. And I thought that that was really marvelous
I bought, I've often taught, told Dr. Moriah, as we've looked back on our season, that I think that was one of the most significant things we did, and we spent a whole month on it, and that the coaches were involved with part of it. And the coaches weren't involved with part of it. But part of what the coaches were involved with is she put together role playing scenarios to how you wanted to receive feedback. And we talked about feedback, how the player wanted to receive feedback, how the coach appreciated some feedback, and what that looked like, and even how each player like some people made it a little softer. Some people want you to be really blunt. So we we did some really hard work there. And guess what coaches, I mean, we we hadn't put in writing how they wanted to receive feedback to and we role played it. And I refer to that during the season a couple of times, because I thought it was really important you get at critical moments, and I wanted to handle them well. And I had to remind some of the players that look, I want to do what you need for us to do in this situation. And I thought it was really great for them to have to look at it too. But I'm all about this leadership thing isn't about ego. I mean, there's some ego involved, but it's about all hands on deck, doing what's best for the team in the moment, because it's constantly your culture is constantly dynamic and fluid. And you have to stay on top of it. And it bleeds into all those things that we've been talking about earlier, Paul, as a leader about self mastery, and about being the best version of yourself and about doing the check ins routinely. All of that stuff has to be in place, if you're going to be able to be able to be a positive member, productive member of your culture.
08_01.3_Brown
PB
Fri, May 13, 2022 at 10:21 PM
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players, humorous, felt, impact, neglected, philosophy, basketball player, connecting, supposed, positively, care, coach, industry, overcome, behave, PURPOSE, pressure
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Brenda (100%)
I think in any profession in any industry, your philosophy has to be first connecting with your PURPOSE of why you're there. You're there for a reason. And I fully believe that in any situation, why am I here? What am I supposed to learn? How am I supposed to impact and the second one's kind of humorous is don't be something your players have to overcome. I wanted to be, I wanted to be something that was a presence and an experience that my players appreciated and enjoyed and look forward to. I didn't want to have to be something that players are eight years remembering, gosh, you remember she was she made me feel so anxious. I felt pressure every time I was in contact with this coach, or I felt like she neglected me and didn't really care about me except as a basketball player. So those are just some some examples of what I did not want to be. And so I tried to behave in a way that would impact my players positively and be a blessing rather than a curse.
04_02_Ryan
PB
Wed, Mar 8, 2023 at 1:24 PM
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level, listening, feel, steps, achievements, marker, transaction, PURPOSE, listened, relationships, matters, suddenly, belief, status, gather, psychological safety, lay, shout, personality, scream
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Ben (100%)
So when I got there first, I think part of my personality isn't to suddenly shout and scream at people and lay down a marker, it's to gather as much information as I possibly can before we then feel like you've got enough to decide on your next steps and the pace of those next steps and the risk of those next steps.
So I went around and listened to people. And again, those levels that I've been, I've worked hard on over the last kind of 10 years on my listening skills, not just being on that top level, that's pretty much transaction or listening to you just so I can answer your question. But listening to try to understand and then get to that third level where people really think in the relationships you've got with them that they you care about them, and it matters. And you remember things that makes them feel the other parts of psychological safety, like PURPOSE and belief, and their status and their achievements are getting recognized and they feel like they've got control. They've got some autonomy in what we're doing.
20_01_Lange
PB
Mon, Feb 20, 2023 at 3:08 PM
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championships, achieve, enriched, assistant coaches, life, t shirt, person, won, paul, coached, paths, trophy, crossed, titles, nice, true, supervision, simple, fulfilled, draw
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Olaf (100%)
That's a big question, Paul. I wish I had an insightful answer. But I'm I'm a rather simple person when it comes to questions like this. It's definitely not championships I know that much. I can barely remember who won, who won the NBA five years ago or three years ago. So I think it's, it's it's simple championships. If I've helped people, I coached or under my supervision, you may be assistant coaches, sometimes people you influence to become better people on and off the court. And we all end up saying, realizing that our lives were enriched because we crossed paths, then I think I fulfilled my PURPOSE. You know, and I think earlier, we talked about, nothing is achieved alone and in life. And I think that's, that's so true. And all these championships and titles, they're nice and I love them. But again, they just eventually there's the metal in the box, or a t shirt and a draw or a trophy and a cabinet. But we're really last, I think is who you had to become to achieve it. And if we all become better as people or as a person in the quest, and I have been a part of it and then I'm at peace
8.2 Close_1
PB
Mon, Oct 2, 2023 at 12:29 PM
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givers, lifestyle, growth mindset, lens, ucla, gratitude, wake, world, day, people, selfish, preserve, contentment, create, perfect, return, habits, devices, humans, great
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Cori (100%)
So I said growth, mindset, gratitude and being lifestyle givers. I just believe that you wake up every day. And I actually made a speech about this at my high school graduation. And I still believe that I'm turning 50 this year. And I still believe it to this day, just like I did when I was 18 years old. But that every day, we have a chance when we wake up to look at the world through the lens of what can I give? Or what can I get? And and it's a choice you have to make, because I think we were are all pretty selfish humans, left to our own devices.
You know, I think it's easy to be sort of self Preserve. But I think the reality is, is that PURPOSE and depth and contentment come from looking at the world through that lens of what can I get, how can I invest in someone else? You know, another great quote that I got from Coach Wooden was, the only way to have a perfect day is to give to someone else with no expectation of anything in return. That's how you create a perfect day. And so, if we could have, you know, a bunch of lifestyle givers, committed to creating perfect days of giving to other people without any expectation of getting anything in return. How cool is that? So that's our third core value life so lifestyle givers, being people of gratitude and having a growth mindset are what we try to build our habits around and our values and our culture around at UCLA women's basketball.
09_03_Baber
PB
Tue, Jun 7, 2022 at 4:30 AM
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players, fijians, normalize, challenge, learn, terms, bonded, hong kong, attention, razzmatazz, distractions, huge amount, professional sports, fun, ultimately, world, foul, coaches, discussed, lots
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Gareth (100%)
But I think that one of the biggest ways that we normalize the process, if you like is we discussed it, we discussed it with the players quite regularly. I call them attention robbers, the players were quite aware of what they were. And we would if we will go into Hong Kong, for example. And we would know that there'll be the razzmatazz around a Hong Kong tournament, and there will be lots of people and lots of alcohol around and the things that can use distract you, if you're going to other parts of the world is gonna be big Fujian communities, which is fantastic to have. But again, that can lead you away in terms of focus on what you gain.
So I was always conscious and you learn with experience as well as as you travel the world with Fijians that there's going to be greater attention on them, but ultimately, bring them back all the time to the PURPOSE and the intention of what what you're there to do. And one of those intention PURPOSEs is to have fun as well. And I don't want to forget that because I had a huge amount of fun with these crazy Fijians that they do. They love the round the world, they love everybody they meet, and they just enjoy being around each other the whole time. And they still bonded in terms of their relationships. But that was a challenge, a challenge that we looked after as a staff, a challenge that we looked after, as a group of players in normalizing the process of understanding what the distractions would be and how we manage them.
And I think that we did navigate our way through it. I wouldn't say it was perfect. But again, that's what the challenges are of being professional sports coaches and players is to ensure that you do keep ahead of this and when you do fall foul of it that you use it to learn from and move yourself on and ultimately not repeat errors like that in the future. And I like to think the players learned a huge amount from that.
7.1 Prunty
PB
Sun, Oct 8, 2023 at 4:24 PM
2 min
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people, feel, chemistry, idea, create, ridiculed, constructive feedback, pigeonhole, creative, goals, constructive criticism, role, box, thick skin, establish, dissolve, environment, envelope, team, facilitate
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Joe (100%)
I think one of the things is you have to create that and you have to help facilitate and create that environment. You know, there's a book called The culture code, and they talk about creating a safe environment. And essentially, the idea is that you feel comfortable to present your ideas, no matter what they are, and you won't feel that you're ridiculed. Now, I think in this business, you have to have thick skin, but I think you have to be creative, you have to try and figure out what is the best thing to do. And so sometimes that takes, really, I don't wanna say broad outside the box, but you've got to think outside the box a little bit. And so coming up with an a unique idea, you don't want to feel like you can't do it. Because no matter who you are, I think, you know, with teams, you're always trying to establish the roles and the goals. You're trying to figure out what people's responsibilities are. But you don't want to pigeonhole people into those areas, because you want people to be able to like I said, think outside the box, be creative, push the envelope. Let's see what ideas work best, because maybe something that you tried with another team or somewhere at a different point in time. It didn't work out that well. But maybe it's you tried it at that point to lead you to this time to use it. It was meant to be used at this time, even though the first time it didn't work out.
So having a role, but don't feel like that's what I have, I can only do these things. That's it, establishing the goals, where's the team going? What are we trying to accomplish? What's our PURPOSE, and if you you can establish those things. It gives people a focus for where they're trying to get to, I think you have to have constructive interaction. I know for myself, I'm always looking for constructive criticism or constructive feedback, things that will help me get better. I'm always trying to improve. I think that's something that in life you should be trying to do is are you getting better every day?
And I think chemists chemistry is an everyday thing. It's, it's something that people tend to just throw out there and feel as if it's, oh, yeah, we've got great chemistry. Okay, well, chemistry can be torn apart and dissolve is quickly or quicker than it is built. So it's not something that it just Oh, yeah, we just have it and now we've arrived at it. It's something that you do every day is you work on being a team
Jenny 24:06
I don't think it's a risk to to follow your own heart. I believe that there. I think goals only set you up for frustration and disappointment. But if you can, again, we go back to this self awareness. If you can find your inner place where that voice leads you. You can't go wrong. If you follow the peace. If you follow the passion. If you follow the PURPOSE, then I think there what might appear to be risk is actually the least risky life you can live because you're following the things that nobody can take from you. So there's a strength, there's a resilience, there's, there's an energy, and nobody else is in control of that. I don't want to give any human being control of my soul. And so the only way you can do do that is by living your life for the internal internal rewards, the internal convictions, the internal principles, the internal PURPOSE and passions and things that are just I think I believe we're born with in seed form. And if you live your life in such a way and you're around certain people, those seeds get watered, and now take on a life of itself and you and so that way overpowers any like risks or fears. I think the positive things in life when watered always overpower the negative light always overpowers darkness, darkness doesn't even exist. Without light, darkness is just the absence of light. So when we start finding those real substantial things in our life that have that, that level of power than the other things, they don't even really exist.
Graham Henry 30:05
that's a long story. We haven't got three or four hours, but really your brand culture in those days was probably no, no criticism was just the way things were. The senior players were dominant. And there was a, there was a, a alcohol problem in the group. But it was just the continuation of the amateur days, you know, had mean, on and off the field, you know, and, and that didn't suit everybody. And so we had to develop a culture that, that everybody felt comfortable in. And not just some hard mean, who may have responsibility, that theme. So we went through some learning curves.
But in the finish, it was about having a clear understanding what your PURPOSE was. And our PURPOSE was to be the best in the world. But we have the ability to be so we, we had to achieve that. Not only the best rugby team in the world, but perhaps the best sporting team in the world. And like the All Blacks have been nominated for the Laureus Sports Awards Team of the Year, four times and been named once and nobody else has done that, as far as I know. So there was some achievement on that PURPOSE, you know, to be the best sporting team in the world. And nobody knew that we didn't advertise that it was just within the team, and then we had to develop a culture that would achieve that PURPOSE. And everybody had to take that on board adhere to that live that culture, and that culture was really to be brief was about humility, you know, understanding we had come from not getting ahead of yourself, realizing your job is to keep getting better, keep improving. So that was your job, if you thought you were the finished product, you were dead. So it was a constant self improvement by the management and the players of that team.
So humility, understanding that you are not that you can always get better. And capital was that was the hunger, the integrity of doing what you had to do to to achieve those things, you know, to achieve that, and self improvement. And then we were lucky, because we had a team that has a history, a legacy that goes back 100 years. And our job was to add to that legacy. So it wasn't a difficult story to tell or not a difficult story to, to put into place. If everybody if everybody agreed, and we know in the end, and in the in the main 99% No, that's a bit of an exaggeration. 95% of those people involve agreed with what we were trying to do. And so it was a team driven thing. It was a solution focused, it was about communication. And it was real time, real time culture. So every two or three test matches, we'd sit down, say, what is the goal for the next two or three tests? How are we going on our culture? How are we going on our ability to play the game. So we set objectives for every two or three tests, but constantly working on the right behaviors, the right culture, and if you haven't got the right culture, you can be the best or you can achieve your ultimate potential. So that that backbone was incredibly important, real time culture, total understanding of what that was by everybody involved, and what we're trying to achieve. back as I say that we're very fortunate the All Blacks are considered perhaps one of the most successful sporting teams in the world over 100 years. And we have that base to work from. And that legacy, proving that legacy was, was hugely motivational.
Gareth Taylor 30:55
I think it's the hardest thing probably to manage. And you're right. You know, you hear coaches talking about how obsessed they are. You're hearing that, you know, most football coaches, probably every 32 minutes, I think, a survey show that they're thinking about something to do with their role, or football. And I looked at that and thought, well, I'll be happy with 32 minutes, I think mine is less, I am obsessed with the game, I really am. And when I say obsessed with the game, I'll probably change that and say, I'm obsessed with helping, I think I've probably come to a stage in my life where, you know, I feel that I understand what my PURPOSE is on the on this planet. And that's to help people. And that can come in various forms. You know, there's no point, I'm trying to help the players. But I'm not trying to help the staff that we work with. You need to be able to try and help anyone you come across. And it's certainly the people that you see that really engage, that show that same passion that you have, I think that is that's where the magic happens. I feel like I'm helping but also going back to my playing career, I think as provent also OCD and a lot of things because it was just repetition. It was such repetition. It was about respect, it was about discipline. I mean, certainly going back to my YTS days, or apprenticeship days, whatever you want to call it is completely different. Now for the young players, you know, they don't have to do any jobs. They don't have to do any kind of chores. They're treated like royalty, almost not sure that that's the right thing, because that education I had from 16 to 18 was incredible, about discipline, respect, hard work. And it was a repetitive nature of throughout my career training, sleeping, recovering, meeting, just went in a cycle like that. And again, that probably goes back to that point I made around PURPOSE.
Liam 36:55
Yeah, well, you know, I, I had, I had eight or nine years experience of leading teams, I had been appointed to the head of sales and revenue and Bank of Ireland when we were losing a million today, including Saturdays and Sundays. So that would certainly test your your leadership style, you know, we had a big body of work to turn that around. Obviously, then I had, I had since then, in 2016, I made the move back down to my own region here in Munster. So I became the provincial director of the month region. So that had a remit of, you know, to 72 branches across the Bank of Ireland network in Munster, there was a business banking team, and it was about 700 people. So that was a, that was a great opportunity to work with people, I had to completely transform how we how we operated, you know, really went after the culture within the back. So a lot of what I was doing was very complimentary. I will say to people, Paul, I don't have I don't have a different set of tools for working in the corporate world or working in sport mode, I have to use the same tools because to me, everything I've done in life is our own people. And how do we get people to really be the best version of themselves and take, and that if they're not being the best version themselves, that you're least you do everything possible to try and turn them around.
Because I don't think there's any better trade in life as a leader than getting somebody who maybe is operating either three or four, and catching them turning them hitting the light switch on and getting them up to a seven or an ace where they're not performing. Because the motor always said to me, Liam Sheedy said, there's nobody going into rock that would go double going in PURPOSE, to do to do a bad job. And that's something that always stuck with me, our job as leaders is to try and light that fire inside them and connect them to some bigger PURPOSE as to why they might do it a little bit differently, so that they're adding value, because we'd all like to make a difference in life. And my PURPOSE in life is to make a difference with people. So that's the big thing for me.
So I felt I was much better equipped to handle challenges around people and the environment. Now, I was also you know, there's no criticism like I was, I won't say bulletproof but I was very, very strong in my own beliefs. I didn't feel I had anything it proves, even though I felt I had a lot more to accomplish if you get me, I said to proving had been done in my previous tent. A lot of people that are passionate about it about the game, come back and ask me to say look at lean, you know, would you give it a go? The guy Michael, who I would want the alert in 16 I asked him for his advice. And he said leave me said you know, and this was a big moment for me so lean go back in there he says, there's another one enemy says and you will get you bring it you bring it home. So it was a big moment was myself and Mike were very close friends and have been for a number of years we played together, he was a selector with me and he had done to manage to to an island. So getting that level of backing was important. And then some of the players that I had since 2006, you know, they came on the phone and they said Come on, you know, and I felt I owed him something, Paul because they had been with me you know, probably 14 years previously we started the journeys and they were only kids and here they were they said they wanted to try and grab another another one before before you know as they will get not in their in their careers. So when I wake up, went to America and listen you know I'm very lucky for marriage and Ashley married my wife and Ashley and Gemma to two girls like I think they were definitely had brighter smiles on their face when they said it was going back because you know, Sunday with matches a family there for us. And you know, the waiting about you know, no matter what you lose when you when you know your family will never judge you or you will always get that warm embrace after the game. So I say look, your boards will give it a go. But it's great to get the one race then like if you take the all Ireland semi final in 2019 when we came back from the dead, to win it and the other and finally to be able to go over and catch the girls and lift them over the fence and just give them a warm hug after the game. Is there special moments in you know, again, it's back. It's back to memories. But, you know, I felt I could make a difference. I felt I had something to offer. And obviously I managed to persuade him and O'Shea to come back on board. So I set an had Dara and Tommy. The two wonderful coaches. Dara Dara was on my panel in 2010. Tommy was captain in 1999. On Kelly came in and done some work with us. Darren Leeson was doing some goalkeeping coach later on the year. So I got a really good team of people around around the great backroom team. And yeah, we as I said, you know, a lot of people felt it was a risk, I didn't feel I don't approve, I was just going back in and I felt I could offer something. So I said, if you're gonna offer something, well, then why wouldn't you
And King 27.10
And you're exactly right. And that's the reality of it all that what you're saying is exactly right. Like it is it's like there is that element. And when it happens that close to home. And those things are sort of heightened, it brings it forward. And it's like, do you love it that much in you keep going in your love sport that much that you have to choose whether that especially now and in this current situation, like even more so you know, like I still want my son, or what? What has been Sydney exactly that same spot where the guy got taken at greenmount. Like, that's exactly where I go cuz snap is a pretty territorial place. So right out the top of that headline is controlled by the best scholars in the world and pack. So it's kind of like there's an etiquette thing. So you move down the point, the lesser surfy, you are really what you should do. That's the cat. So right where that guy got takens, where I take my son, and my godson, and my my wife and her friends is exactly where he was sitting. So it's like having said that, it's like it was a greater PURPOSE. You want to live like that and not have surfing in the ocean in your life, or what is the greater good. And in fact, this is it. I'll be out there on weekend with my son. And spending this much time in the ocean, you do pick up cues, you see the birds feeding and you see how close to sea life is coming to shore whales coming that close with their calf, so people can take photos on them. They're not there to entertain us. They're doing that to try and protect them. So when you see them, and they're not 10 kilometers out to sea, and they're moving in, something's threatened. And so you do pick up these cues from the ocean where Oh, but also, I'll be aware that I just won't race out and spend 15 minutes from high point engaging Is there any schools of fish exists and birds is one of the whales doing is one of the dolphins you can really tell why by the animal's behavior on what's what's happening.
And yeah, we're just so grateful that he's still with us. And he has a nice fulfilling that greater PURPOSE, you know, what make us realize that there's a hollowness and those trophies are shiny, and once they've used down and you've got them on the shelf, he recognizes the power of his influence through sport to do greater good and why he is here and that center just couldn't be more proud or couldn't have a better role model than that, man.
Jeff Traylor 28:48
As corny as it sounds, is against it as I was at a young age, you gotta have a philosophy, I just thought that was something you did to get a job, I didn't know you really had to have a philosophy. But you better know who you are and what you're about. Because you're gonna think you're gonna get in this thing and call all these great plays, and it's just, they're gonna work. And it's, it's the least important thing of all of it. So you better know who you are. And don't try to be Jeff trailer because the Lord only made one job trailer, you got to be the very best version of you that you can be. And God gives us all kinds of hands. I mean, when I was trying to find my passion, what that was, I mean, and what my PURPOSE was, I mean, it's natural. I mean, I tell my own three children. If you could do this job the rest of your life and you didn't care what you made, and they didn't even pay you. Would you still do it? And if you would then chase that job too. You just can't chase anymore. And I was blessed that I've never worked a day in my life. This has been 30 Three years now, the players are by far the favorite part of my day. It's always the adults I don't like dealing with. I love dealing with the children there. For 33 years, they've been the reason I come to work. And I've made as little as $19,000 at Big Sandy, Texas. And as much as I'm making dinner at UTS today, and I still love the kids in St. Paul.
Dimma 12:35
we spoke about it heavily at the start about how for this to work, you're going to hear some stories that are quite harrowing, you know, obviously, people have been through different upbringings, and all those sorts of things. But there has to be a level of trust in the room, that you are comfortable enough to tell this story in front of people that you're going to go on the field and battle for. And we spoke about that at length problem before we did the exercise, and had the conversation about Listen, what is in this room stays in this room. But understand the level of trust required from the person who's telling the story. They're putting there, some some quite horrific moments, and some embarrassing moments and things they're not proud of, they might be quite ashamed of. And for them to open up was incredible, really.
But it had to have an element of trust, they had to have the trust between teammates between work colleagues. And it was a very fine line. Because there's no doubt, it was very fortunate that it worked for us and had great, great rewards. But then there's probably other organizations that don't have that trust, where it's probably not going to have the same impact as what it did for our organization. But then it sort of stem from myself and trade child our story first and foremost. And then we just went through its player and staff member and was the conversation in there was really important, but then would happen, what would happen is that over lunch, then the conversations would really start then you'd start to dig deeper. And then you start to talk about similar type of experience. And what tended to happen is we were a team, but then we became like brothers, in essence, and you became like a strongest sense of a family, which is really, really important. So a sense of PURPOSE. And why became even stronger as a result of these conversations, or were having over prior to training sessions and over lunch, which certainly became part of the fabric of our music culture and what we got the success that we did.
Michelle Clark Heard 26:07
I think the biggest thing is the pay attention. That's one thing that Laurie part was impeccable with, is paying attention to detail. She was an unbelievable teacher. She taught me how to teach the game. I watched her and there was this young coach that they came in and had worked under her on the ball. So I knew basically everything Paul Sandford was teaching and how he was teaching it. And then I had to come here and learn all over and start like different. And think different and be disciplined. I think that's really something I really tried to make sure that I pass on to my staff a lot, the pay attention to detail and the belief. And we talked about the success that we had in 2003. And all those, a lot of those players wasn't top 50 players in the country or top what and her and the staff really helped develop them. And I really believe not only developing on the court, but developing off the court and helping people understand what their PURPOSE is, I really try to focus a lot with that when my staff,
Mike Candrea 10:57
I've got a lot of life lessons that I've learned in my own life? I mean, when I first took the job at Arizona, I commuted 72 miles one way today. Yeah, so that takes away and you know, that was an hour in the car, two hours a day, you're at work, you come home late, you go to bed, you get up, you do it again. And the one thing that I realized is that I was lacking the time to spend with my own kids, I spent more time with other people's kids on my own. And that kind of woke me up a little bit. Because it made me really think, how long can I really do this. And I was very passionate about the sport and passionate about my job. I love what I did. I never thought I worked a day in my life because I was doing what I love to do. But on the other hand, there were some other things in life that I was kind of forgetting about. And I think that's kind of part of that process. When you when you focus so much on winning, you lose track of the people that are really important to you in life in other things in life. And as I got older, I got better at finding some balance in my life. Because I went through some challenges, you know, I'd come home and I'd bitched and moaned about the kids and say, God, these kids don't care anymore. They don't want to work at it. And my wife would look at me and go, Mike, no one really cares what happened to you today. I go, Wait a minute, you're my wife, you gotta care. She goes, No, just walk around the neighborhood and knock on everyone's door and ask if they really care about my Kendra. They don't. So a lot of it was that self inflicted pressure and you take a look at yourself. And you know, you're, you're probably right, no one really remembers what, who won the championship five years ago, so quit putting all that pressure on yourself, and you need to enjoy the process, you need to enjoy each and every day, because I lost the player at 21 years old to diabeetus played in the championship game. And May was gone in June. And that woke me up a little bit to say, You know what practice is more than just this game. It's about these relationships that we're going to have for a lifetime. Because that's what I love about softball. You think you coach kids for four years, and they leave you they never leave you, you know, you're a part of their life forever. And that is a very unique experience. Because I coached baseball too often guys kind of come and go, they really are not quite as they don't want coach. They may want to coach at their wedding. But these women want you there, you know, it's very important to them, that you're a part of their life. And so that kind of changed my whole process about really, what am I here for in my hair to to win championships? Or am I here to develop people? And I think once I understood that, I think I look back now. And I can look myself in the mirror and say, you know, I like what I see I like what I left too many times people spend their entire life trying to win a championship and they're miserable.
The other thing I realized is that I would blow through the victories. And when I got beat, it would take chunks out of my body, I would agonize on the defeats and that is unhealthy. You know, in your thinking about what you're telling your kids, you know, we play a game of failure, you need to learn how to fail forward. Well, as a coach, I wasn't doing that, you know, I was preaching something that I wasn't loving. And so it made me kind of step back and realize, you know, what, what is my true PURPOSE in coaching, and it's about coaching people, you know, and if you coach the person, then the athlete will come up. And if you're only worried about the athletes, and it's very short lived, you know, and then you're setting yourself up for, you know, a lot of failure and a lot of misery because it's hard to win consistently. And I you know, at the end of my career when people tell me that it's like, you know, I wasn't something I was keeping track of, and something that I really cared about. It was just, I was doing something that I love to do. And I got passionate about helping young people become better people, you know, and better athletes. And so that became the process and the winds kind of took care of themselves.
Gunn 1:04.01
I looked at Sir Alex Ferguson a lot through my career. And I loved when I was reading from him that the next day after a championship you're getting after it going through and honestly, I can honestly say, I've always led my career that way where I really wasn't ever thinking about the word legacy at all. And I am not a country and western fan. But Kenny Rogers, the gambler. There'll be plenty of time for counting your chips when the game's done. I'm okay with that. So when I retire, then maybe there'll be a lot more fun reflection and worrying about that. For the most part of my career, it was a competitor.
My job is to help this team win. And I want to do it in a way that I think is good. Simple as that, you know, and for me good. We're all though As values and and having the togetherness of a team that's a really cool existence to be part of that pack. And so, could we win? Can we enjoy the journey? Could we love the failures and successes and and really enjoy that. And so that was really my understanding of my job for a very long time. And then it wasn't until you start listening to all different things and reading different things that, you know, you start questioning, what's your higher PURPOSE? And what are the real expectations? And then, as much as I always felt I was providing a holistic environment? I think now I'm thinking more deliberately about that holistic environment, if that makes sense. I guess short answer, Legacy wise, I hope you make an impact. So that you're not forgettable. And that when people mentioned your name, your hope that people laugh and smile. And if there's a few people that frown and scowl, and I'm okay with that thing. I think that's okay. I'd much rather have provoked feelings and not, you know, so, um, no, I think you know, the big hope, though, is that you can have really enjoyed being around people. And I do and I want to continue doing that. And I, I guess, I get asked about my players a lot. And to me, I even say to the guy that say, look, simple test for me with you when someone mentions your name in 10 years time. Do I smile? And then with a lot of you do, I laugh and immediately, I'm thinking of the great moments and great memories. And if, if, if I smile and laugh and to me that means you've been incredibly successful with where my where my barometer is, that makes sense.